Relationship tips for women

1. Accept fate

– having bad experiences in relationships does not mean you will not meet the right guy. Don’t blame yourself for failed relationships, accept the fate and move on. Never paint every man with the same brush, just like everybody else people are different . Learn to accept your past, present and future always with an open heart. You might be down but not done so stay positive, accept fate and held your head high. No one is worthy spending sleepless nights for. Pick yourself up.

2. Put yourself fist

– stop the habit of trying to be in everyone’s shoes. Put your feelings first before anybody. You do not have to say sorry when you are not wrong. If you feel that something is not right check it first before you commit.

– Making your spouse feel better will not only hurt you but will create a wrong impression on your partner. Do not also mistake chemistry for feelings because if you are not careful you will hurt your feelings in the process.

3. You do not have the ability to change people

– people are who they are, you cannot fall in love with a jerk and expect to change him. The mentality of trying to fix your undeserving boyfriend must end. If he is not meeting your needs walk away or you will be stuck for life with him.

4. Let go

– women Harbor’s grudges and a lot of stuff in their hearts. Always discuss things with your partner until you are satisfied that the problem is gone. Let go of the issue, forget it and don’t bring it up again in that way you will find joy in your relationship

5. Accept help

– ladies we have a problem when we are educated, independent we feel like we do not need help on small matters like buying stuff.

-Let the men do what he can so that he can feel that he is a man. He can feel needed, let him wash the car, braai the meat, it is good to accept help and courtesy from others

Chantelle….

First Devotion

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Joshua 22 verse 5

But be very careful to keep the commandments and the law that Moses the servant of God gave you, to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, to keep his commands, to hold fast to him and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul.

Reflection

1 To love the Lord your God. – This is the only motivation for obedience. Obedience is far easier when you love someone. To love the Lord is at the heart of all God’s commandments. To love the Lord and our neighbour in fact fulfils the law and the prophets. Romans 13:8-10 Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law. For the commandments, ”You shall not commit adultery,“ ”You shall not murder,“ ”You shall not steal,“ ”You shall not bear false witness,“ ”You shall not covet,“ and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, ”You shall love your neighbour as yourself.“ Love does no harm to a neighbour; therefore love is the fulfilment of the law.

Love keeps people from just conforming to a standard. Love is required to really transform our hearts. It is no coincidence that love is put at the front of this list. To serve God we must first love Him. Jesus spoke concerning the importance of loving the Lord and our neighbour. Matthew 22:37-40 Jesus said to him, ” ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ “This is the first and great commandment. ”And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbour as yourself.’  “On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”  

2 To Walk in His Ways. – 3 To keep His commandments. – This speaks of lifestyle. To walk refers to the way we live. Our journey through life is made up of many steps. It is many of these individual steps that make up our lives. Psalm 37:23 says, The steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, and he delighteth in His way. The man who  serves the Lord seeks to walk, or live, in God’s ways. This involves keeping His commands. The word keep is the same one in v. 2 and 3. It is the same word translated take careful heed at the beginning of this verse. It is not enough to know God’s word or even believe it. They must obey it.

4 To hold fast to Him. – This speaks of devotion to God. The word hold fast means to cling to or to cleave, it speaks of loyalty and affection. Joshua uses this word in the next chapter. Joshua 23:11-12  Therefore take careful heed to yourselves, that you love the LORD your God. “Or else, if indeed you do go back, and cling to the remnant of these nations — these that remain among you — and make marriages with them, and go in to them and they to you, They must not to forsake the Lord by giving their loyalty to the remnant of the nations left. This was repeated by Moses a number of times to avoid unequall yoking between believers and non believers in Deuteronomy. They must hold fast to Him and stay in close fellowship with the Lord.

5 To serve Him with all your heart and with all your soul. This was a part of the law that Moses rehearsed to Israel in Deuteronomy 6:4-6. Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one! ”You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. God requires total commitment from His servants. He doesn’t want a part of us. We must serve Him with all our heart and soul and strength. This of course ties in with loving God. The word serve here carries the idea of being a bondservant or voluntary slave. It also carries the idea of worship with this. They were to obey the Lord as His servants and worship only Him. After all the Lord was their master. He alone had redeemed them from bondage in Egypt. Moses is referred to as the Lord’s servant 3 times in this passage. Moses was a great man of God because he was a servant. They would do well to follow his example.

Joshua remembered their past faithfulness. But he also reminded them of the need for future faithfulness. We do need to be encouraged in our Christian faith. But this must be balanced with the challenge to persevere. They probably knew these things, but reminding them would be a safegaurd to them. We so easily forget. 2 Peter 3:1-2 Beloved, I now write to you this second epistle (in both of which I stir up your pure minds by way of reminder), that you may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us, the apostles of the Lord and Savior, This would start with love for the Lord. From there godly living and faithful service would flow naturally. Is your service motivated by love or guilt? Do you walk in obedience to God’s commands? Are you clinging to him? Or have people or other things taken you away from serving the Lord? Are you serving the Lord wholeheartedly or only reluctantly

Chantelle Bauti

Boyfriend

Oh God
How did l end up with this man
That stirs trouble as if he is brewing beer
You say you know God but you mock his mighty

You joke with God’s breath every moment you get a chance
I try to compromise but my efforts are all in vain

Coz every chance you get, you downgrade my sanity
Your voice echoes in my head l love you
Even in the far away place l will run back to you
What kind of love is this that strips me naked of my self worth

I sit down to reflect on my past life l see the power of God
Born shinning like the rising sun giving light to everything on the earth
My youth was that of a glowing pale orange sun in winter

I was woman of my words and God was my strength
Trouble arrived in the form of a handsome man that stole my heart and trapped me

Like the birds of the air l do not know what my day will be like oh God is this the end of me
Like the fading sun my faith fades away

A bear in a sheep’s clothing,

Waiting to devour every step of the righteous

Like a mad woman l will break loose from your fake love and return to my God…

By Chantelle


Essence of a true relationship

How can l believe you truely love me

When your actions doesn’t match your words

In the endless midst l follow my heart hoping for a change

The world think we are perfect and awesome together

You create a double standard affection to the world

Have you ever considered how l feel

In the shadow of imagination my heart throbs

Longing for those old days when you were running after me

You were everywhere like air

Romantic dinner was the way to go

Everything vanished to thin air

Are we a couple or aliens

Alienated on our old self where is the essence of a true relationship

By Chantelle

Relationships

What do we mean when we say relationship, l think most of us will think about intimate relationship but that is not the case. Relationship is a just a connection between two or more people. Today l will talk about different types of relationships. They are 4 types of relationships that is family relationship, friend relationship, acquaintance relationship and romantic relationship.

1.family relationship

This is a relationship between you and your family members. This is the foundation of all relationships, as a psychologist l normally meet people with broken family relationships. These people find it difficult to stay longer in relationships or they became clingy because of the fear of being left. The root of relationships must be taken seriously by families because they help our personal well-being in forming relationships outside our family.

2.friend relationship

What do we mean when we say friend relationship one may ask. This is a bond that we form with other people outside our family. They became more like family to us. These are the people that we trust, care and confide in.

3.acquaintance relationship

This is a relationship formed between associates, neighbours, work mates or the people we meet probably end in social gatherings, the relationship is characterized by respect and politeness to have a harmonious relationship with people around you. These people may not be your friends nor your family members.

4.romantic relationship

This is a bond between two people who are strongly attracted to each other both physically and emotionally. This is characterized by girlfriend and boyfriend.